My Second Book
It’s really wild to be holding my new book The Process, because it’s real.
Little by little you can do anything.
The former version of myself was all or nothing, grit over good sense. Then I learned the power of something over nothing, consistency over intensity.
I won’t bore you with all the steps I had to break down over the past decade to get to the point where I have a book. The point is you break it down stupid small you really can do anything.
I think where most people get tripped up is they feel uncomfortable as a beginner. Some people pick things up easily. When we’re growing up watching our peers crush it in gym class, in our youth we are fooled into the assumption some people have it, and others do not. The gym teacher probably should have been there to provide some context, but that’s another story.
I never had that advantage. I was in the outfield “please don’t let the ball come to me...WHAM!”.
Then there was shirts and skins…here’s what I’m getting at.
I’m reflecting upon my past, my insecurities, my weaknesses. Those of us that have to fight for it, to push for it, we find there is a different way. That’s because of discomfort, which prompts growth.
The bottom line is, after all that “learning” you’d think we’d know how to learn.
Then there’s the myth it should be painful. Pain stops you from doing what you’re best at. How do you know what you’re best at?
It’s the thing you do without thinking.
That doesn’t mean it’s the most valuable, that’s probably your job.
I always ask my patients “what is the thing you do without thinking about it?” For some people it’s keeping the room together, managing teams, diplomacy. For others it’s individual performance and problem solving.
In order to do that thing that you can do so effortlessly you need to free up energy, which means let go of friction. That’s what I did, and now here we are.
I also wrote this book because I’m not sure anybody else could, because nobody else had, so that’s what I did.